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  2020-12-14

  What Effect Does A Pandemic Have On A Relationship? (Corrected)

  As this interview is part of a collection exploring relationships and the exploration of sexuality during the Covid-19 pandemic, I really wanted to get to know some more about what it’s like to have a relationship altered by the pandemic. Luckily, I knew just the people. I reached out to two of my best friends on campus and asked if they’d be willing to speak about their experiences, which they agreed to. I already had an interview set up with a friend who went through a whole relationship (began dating and broke up) during the pandemic, but I felt it was important to explore multiple different types of relationships. This interview to me shows something about my generation living under Covid, as it shows how many of us felt like we were stripped of the indepence we gained when we left for college, and how we now have to navigate living at home again. In the case of these two, they also have to navigate being intimate and romantic with each other in this situation.
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  2020-12-11

  Bumble's "First Moves Forever" Campaign

  As I sat scrolling through Snapchat one day, I was presented with an advertisement. At first I skipped, however, when I saw the Bumble logo, I immediately went back to look at it. Sure enough, I had stumbled upon a perfect addition to this mini collection that I am putting together about dating during the pandemic. The ad was for the Bumble campaign “First Moves Forever” (https://thebeehive.bumble.com/firstmovesforever) which recaps how Bumble was used in 2020, and shares the stories of some users in an interactive way. This website may interest future historians, as it shares the stories of real individuals in relationships, and tells how social media/dating apps were used during the Covid-19 pandemic. It also gives another look into the ways that brands are now using the pandemic as a way of advertising.
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  2020-12-13

  What Effect Does A Pandemic Have On a Relationship?

  As this interview is part of a collection exploring relationships and the exploration of sexuality during the Covid-19 pandemic, I really wanted to get to know some more about what it’s like to have a relationship altered by the pandemic. Luckily, I knew just the people. I reached out to two of my best friends on campus and asked if they’d be willing to speak about their experiences, which they agreed to. I already had an interview set up with a friend who went through a whole relationship (began dating and broke up) during the pandemic, but I felt it was important to explore multiple different types of relationships. This interview to me shows something about my generation living under Covid, as it shows how many of us felt like we were stripped of the indepence we gained when we left for college, and how we now have to navigate living at home again. In the case of these two, they also have to navigate being intimate and romantic with each other in this situation.
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  2020-12-08

  Six Foot Seating

  This photo shows a bench that is an advertisement for the dating app Bumble located in Boston’s Seaport district (exact location unknown). The bench has two seats, with space for social distancing between, which goes to show how far people are taking social distancing guidelines. Bumble makes use of participatory content here to engage the public to interact with their advertisements, which may lead to more interest in further interacting with the app. This object has the potential to interest future historians, as it shows how brands used the pandemic as ways of advertising. It also shows the ways in which not only we changed, but the physical objects around us changed to adapt to the pandemic.
• 2020-10-30

  Why My Friend Can't Get a Date

  My friend gave me permission to share a hilarious online dating experience he just had. Quotations are paraphrased. My friend Luke hops on Xbox and begins to tell me a story. He says, “I’m talking to this girl on Tinder for four hours. She then tells me, ‘I’m bored and I’m going to go read a book’ at 1:30 in the morning! I just laugh it off and ask if she wants to get together at some point the next day. She then tells me, ‘sorry, but my parents won’t let me go out because of COVID.’ She’s 24! She is 24 years old and she’s acting like her mom just grounded her.” I respond by telling him, “bro, she totally just curved you. She also told you she’d rather read a book than text you!” He then replies, “I know that, but if you’re 24 and can’t come up with a better excuse than ‘I’m grounded,’ you don’t belong on Tinder!” This funny story makes one ponder how many other things people use COVID-19 as an excuse to dodge and avoid.
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  2020-09-11

  Dating and Covid

  This is an article that discusses steps to take while dating someone new during the Covid-19 pandemic.
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  2020-07-18

  Dating During A Pandemic

  For someone who is single, dating is a huge part of life and socialization. The COVID-19 pandemic has placed huge strain on this, begging the question, is it safe to date? First and foremost, the best advice is to do what is best for you, while taking into account the health and safety of others. If you are interested in dating during the pandemic, take the other person into account and see what they are most comfortable with. This could be as simple as wearing a mask if going out or having a date over zoom. The same ideology should be used when deciding on whether to be inanimate or not. Being safe is key, meaning dating in a pandemic is not impossible.
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  2020-10-16

  Dating During COVID-19

  My boyfriend and I met on 2019 New Year’s Eve and we brought in 2020 together. It was the best first date either of us had. I had dated countless men from online dating websites over the years and have had no luck. 3 months into eHarmony and with more bad luck and tired of years of getting nowhere with online dating, I signed on once more to delete my account. I had hundreds of unread messages. I scrolled towards the first messages I had received and for whatever reason I clicked on Matthew’s. His message was endearing and thought out. After 6 ½ hours spent talking on the first date, we continued to see each other each weekend thereafter. Just a few months into our relationship, COVID-19 was alive and well and striking fear into everyone in the world. Each date we’d had up until March consisted of lots of walks, talks, and dining out. Not once did we have a “Netflix and chill” date. We are both very much extroverts and we had to be out on the town, all the time. Once local restrictions were put into place, many restaurants closed, bowling alleys, museums, theaters, malls, and all non-essential stores were closed, including parks and beaches. Groups of more than 6 people were no longer allowed and if you were found outside, it must be considered to be doing some sort of recreation. We found it extremely difficult to find interesting things to do on our date nights. Eating out, taking walks, exploring new places, and doing new things was all we had ever done together. We even managed to not eat at the same restaurant for those 3 months (and continued this for almost 5)! A new relationship is already so uncertain with someone. Then having to be careful when we did decided to go out, not being able to see each other because a co-worker may have been exposed, etc. There were so many things that could have ended our relationship, nevermind any insecurities we carried into it from our previous relationships. Somehow, we made it work. We walked down empty streets, drove over an hour away to go swimming at an open beach, ate our meals on his truck bed in the parking lots of restaurants. It was such a strange experience to have during a new relationship, especially given how much we hated being inside. We managed to be mindful of not spreading the virus to others or each other when we decided to go out and still enjoyed our date nights out on the deserted streets of town. I feel that our relationship is even stronger having been through a pandemic, especially with our personality types. We are almost 10 months into our relationship and although it is still very much new, I feel that overcoming obstacles will not be a problem for us in the future.
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  2020-06-29

  Love and the Pandemic

  Trying to keep a relationship together-- let alone happy or healthy-- during this pandemic has been tough. I had to move out of my home and back in with my parents in March, and that meant my partner and I didn't get to see each other for almost six weeks, the longest we had ever been apart. We decided to move in together in May, even though we'd only been seriously dating for less than six months, and three of those months we had been separated due to COVID. Spending 24/7 with another human being, no matter how much you love that other human being, can also be an adventure, as toes are unavoidably stepped on. Still, most days I think we're doing pretty okay. One of the things my partner and I are doing to maintain a sense of normalcy is modifying our old hobby of playing Pokemon GO. Before the pandemic, we used pick a restaurant on Mill for dinner and then catch Pokemon in the surrounding area after. You would think that Pokemon GO would be safe to play right now-- because you can play outdoors and also it's easy to play while maintaining social distancing-- but we've actually really struggled to find places to play where people are wearing masks and respecting social distancing protocols. Mill Avenue, for example, is a literal cesspool with packed bars and no face masks in sight. At Kiwanis Park a few weeks ago, I heard a woman loudly complaining about having to wear a mask. Everything feels dangerous because it seems like people don't care if others get sick. Luckily, with some patience and persistence, we've found places to play that are both safe and allow us small moments of joy. Yesterday, we headed to ASU's campus, which has been mostly empty and requires face masks. We kept our masks on the whole time and saw less than five people. Normally, even picking up groceries from Fry's feels like a terrifying experience to me, and last night was probably the first time I've been out in this entire pandemic and not been paralyzed with fear the whole time. It was nice. Probably about as nice as things can be in a pandemic? I included this video from the end of our Pokemon adventure as we went back to the car. I like the video because it bears the obvious signs of Summer (sweat, traces of sunscreen smudges on my glasses, tank tops), the obvious signs of the pandemic (face masks, empty campus), and the obvious signs of two people dating (smiles, jokes, joy).